Saturday, November 15, 2008

First, let me make one thing clear. I am a mother. I do not take it lightly. I was born for this, and what's more, I'm good at it. For these few years (okay, sometimes it seems like slightly more than a few), but for these few years that my children are growing and reliant on me to raise and guide them, I treat this like a full-time job. I'm not talking one of those 9 to 5 kind of jobs...when I say full-time, I mean full-time. 24/7. I can say this with all sincerity, because my 4 year old frequently sneaks into our room at night and curls up next to me. So even when I'm asleep, I'm on duty. My goal is to turn out five of the most loving, upright, happy, honest, hard working adults the world has ever seen. I'm not kidding.

Okay, having said all that...in my search to better myself as a parent and learn as much as I can that will benefit my children, I read. I look for anything that might educate me and help me to help them. I've found lots of great stuff over the years, but none has been so important, so revolutionary for me personally as DISC. I remember sitting at a seminar ten years ago learning about DISC for the first time. Our daughter, Claire, was 4 at the time. For months I had been troubled by my relationship with my beautiful, smart, perfect little girl. I'm a pretty high "I" and no matter how I tried, I just couldn't seem to connect with this serious, articulate little person. I tried so hard to make her laugh and be silly and act like a carefree child, but to no avail. My son, David was 2 at the time and full of life, usually bouncing off the walls. He reacted to me in a way that I understood, jumping on the bed right along with me. I'll never forget one beautiful, sunny afternoon I decided to take the children out for ice cream. We'd been in the house all day and I thought it would be fun to get out for a few minutes. So I say to 4 year old Claire and 2 year old David, "Who wants to go out for ice cream?!" David immediately starts jumping up and down and singing, "I do! I do!" (appropriate reaction, right?). I turn to look at my little Claire, and there she stood, all serious and pensive...almost looking a little worried. Then she said, "Mommy... I want my ice cream in a cup this time instead of a cone. The last time, the cone made too big of a mess. And don't forget the napkins this time. Last time you forgot them." (?!?!?!) All I could think was, "Something's wrong with her!" So there I sit, several months later, in a DISC seminar for the first time. As the speaker was explaining the basics of the DISC model, it was as if the heavens opened up and choirs of angel began to sing (I told you, I'm an "I"). It clicked. I finally got it. I understood at last. My little girl was a "C." I immediately began to read and learn all I could about DISC. I first had to learn the information and understand it, and then I had to learn to apply it. As cheesy and cliche as this sounds, I can honestly say, it has made all the difference in my life and relationships. I believe that if everyone was equipped with this knowledge and then used it, the world would be a mighty different place.

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